Friday, December 15, 2017

Don't Take Love Away From a Child

I am a Nana and I love all 9 of my grandchildren. I have a closer relationship with some because I helped raise them. But that doesn't mean I love any less.

That being said, I am very upset at the actions of my grown children. I have been excluded many times from my grandchildren's activities, for instance Birthday parties, because I am no longer married to their Father and haven't been since March of 1988. They want his side of the family to be there and if I am there they wont come.

This is a wake up people!!!!!

I am not that person I was when I was married to HIM! 

Instead of playing these childish games and creating such drama, and hurting your own children by denying them love from their Nana. You should embrace the fact that I love them and they love me, unconditionally. 

I have been their since day one for Christopher & Brooke, then I was there for Jada as well babysitting all 3 for about a year. Then Jada was gone and I was only watching Brooke & Christopher, then Brooke moved away with her parents and I had Christopher. 

Then Christopher getting a little brother and I have Jamel for 2 years everyday while Mommy was at work.

Now I have a daughter who is jealous and I am not allowed to see my boys!!!

I was told I was no longer able to see Christopher and Jamel because I lied to Christopher??? Really that is not true. I would never lie to Christopher, I was teaching him not to lie to his mother whom by the way he is scared of. He thinks she doesn't love him...I do not want him growing up thinking that. 

I not only teach them things like talking, walking, manners, love of God, how to pray. But I play with them and they know I love them.

So what happens to  these boys when they can no longer be with their Nana???

Well the response I get is they will be fine.

What no one is seeing is that this is one less person in your child's life that loves them. He is 2 years old, he doesn't understand why he can't be with his Nana.

That's cruel to deny a child love, a healthy love that will take them through their lives and show them how to love and treat others.


Why on earth would you do that to your own children?

I am not abusive, I do not talk bad about you, I just love them. 

You 4 girls as sister's are very nosy in each other's lives and now it's affecting mine. Stay out of things you know nothing about. 

Our house is none of your business. We have a extra room we call it the grand kids room, some of the grandchildren call it their room, so what!!!!! Who cares, they all use it.

This petty crap is immature and out of hand.

My grandchildren have the right to be loved by me as did my children but that was all taken away too...Not getting into all that crap.

Lets not let the past repeat itself.

Let's just breath and let the littleone's be where they want to be, where they get the most love and attention.

Stop telling these children I don't love them! Some of you created this situation where I wasn't allow to be involved so now you are going to have to live with it and get over it. I tried many times to take Jada to Sunday School and to the kids group on Wednesdays. I tried to have a tea party with her, ect.....

I have taken Olivia to the zoo and we also had a tea party, I have taught Olivia & Kayleigh & Christopher how to keep a journal. Kayleigh and I spent a day making paper dolls. I have taken Christopher,  Kayleigh, Olivia & Naviah to school many times and even picked them up. Naviah has spent lots of time with me and Christopher, I took them to the Oktoberfest last year and taught them how to hula hoop while we were there. There are many things I have done with all my grandchildren. Some of you just don't know it!!!!

We have cancelled Christmas at our house this year. We are no longer going to be treated like this. No more drama, no more being ignored. No more treating me like crap by calling me "Gwen" instead of Mom...I am done!!!!!

We will not be DICTATED to!!!

I put a lock on my heart and none of you have the key.

Someday you might actually grow up and regret the way you have treated me.

All I ever wanted my whole life was to be a "Mommy" and your father took that away from me. This is why you disrespect me.

No more, your all adults and I will continue to pray for you as I have always done, but I no longer want a relationship with any of you, it's to dam painful and you all make to many rules. My heart is full of love to give but I don't and won't do it with all your silly rules.

There will be a day when I am very old and ready to die. You will want to say your goodbye's, I am sorry's and what not, and then I am going to apply your rules to my death. 

I pray that your children grow up to treat you better than you have me.

Christopher and Jamel
I love you always, and even though we can't see each other know always that I love you and I know you love me. Nobody can ever take that away from us.

To all my other grandchildren I love each of you always have and always will. I am so tired of your mother's saying I don't love my grandchildren.
I left North Dakota and moved to be closer to my parents because of the hurt and pain I have gone through for way to long. I will no longer be used by you to help raise your kids, just so you can take them from me. 
I only have one daughter who actually has talked to me, you know have a conservation, not judge me. We get along great. The other three have never taken the time to ask me to go for coffee and have a talk or do anything together. It's always drama, taking sides, I am so done. I am at the point in my life where I am going to do what I want when I want and that's my decision, Now that I am in a different state they will not know what I am doing and who with, or where, how and why. They will have to find someone else to judge and talk about. I am gone.